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It’s no longer about a simple mean tweet or harsh comment, we are now dealing with verbal violence and cyber-harassment.

Shame Nation: The Global Epidemic of Online Hate (Sourcebooks) is finally here, make no mistake about it, we’re all a click away from digital disaster. With 92% of Americans armed with smartphones — ready to record your most embarrassing moments.

The rise of social media and “always-on connectivity” has broadened the scope of online harassment. Harassers can be anonymous and reach you 24/7, posting messages and photos that are difficult to erase. Whether in the form of cyberbullying among teens and children, or cyber harassment among adults, online harassment comes in many different forms and can lead to detrimental effects, both emotionally and physically. Fortunately, there are ways that we can protect ourselves, our children, and others from cyberbullying and cyber harassment. There are best practices for online safety, common signs to recognize if someone is being bullied or harassed, and actions we can take to respond to and report bullies or harassers.

To learn more about the different forms of online harassment and how to protect yourself and others, check out the infographic below!

More Than Mean Tweets: Protecting Against Cyberbullying and Cyber Harassment Infographic

Infographic by Digital Guardian

posted by on Bullying, Bullying prevention, Cyberbullying, cyberbullying prevention, Kindness Counts

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Girls can be mean.  Kids can be mean. Adults are no different – sadly.  No one is immune to bullying but everyone has the ability to be kind.

We have heard a lot about mean girls, almost to exhaustion, yet it doesn’t make it go away or even get better.  Girls gossip, they will berate other girls until they cry and feel like dying.

Newly released, one of my favorite authors, Katie Hurley launched  No More Mean Girls (TarcherPerigee). This book will be a game changer for parents, educators and caregivers.

Leading by example.

I still believe a lot of what goes on starts at the top.  Our kids are watching adults – parents and how they treat others.  Girls will watch their mother’s gossip and belittle other mothers, neighbors and even the neighborhood kids.  It is absolutely unacceptable.

The power of girl cliques can be deadly in schools.  Especially if your daughter is locked out of one.  Is it any different if you are a mother that isn’t included for coffee or lunch?  Or worse – is the topic of the coffee or lunch gossip.

Communication with our kids can be difficult at times, but so important. Stay engaged with your child, know who their friends are and if they are having any difficulties with peers.  Be in touch with how they are feeling.

Especially with technology today, online harassment can make your child an easier target for bullies.  Teach your child how to report abuse online and not to be afraid to tell an adult when they are being taunted. Instilling digital wisdom should be a daily routine.  Building trust is imperative to a child.  You are their advocate.

Kind Campaign is an internationally recognized movement, documentary and school program based upon the powerful belief in KINDness that brings awareness and healing to the negative and lasting effects of girl-against-girl “crime.”

Follow them on Twitter and join them on Facebook.

In my new book, Shame Nation: The Global Epidemic of Online Hate (Sourcebooks) we chatted with the founders of the KIND Campaign both Lauren Paul and Molly Thompson.

After watching Finding Kind, the girls are inspired to get up and publicly apologize for a misdeed, pledge to make a change, and write a note of appreciation to an acquaintance. Girls are driven to tearful confessions in the “Truth Booth” about how emotionally scarring bullying can be. “We try and leave girls with the message that [the bullying] they’re experiencing is one small, tiny chapter of their whole story,” says Molly. “It’s so hard to really grasp that there are so many amazing experiences they will have, [that] they don’t need to change themselves.”

Take the time to change a life – it always comes full circle….

Order Shame Nation today from AmazonBarnes & NobleBooks-A-Million or Indie Books.

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October is National Cyberbullying Awareness and Prevention Month. There are many forms of online cruelty.

As I continue to write about bullying and cyberbullying, it never ceases to amaze me how many different ways people have discovered to hate others — whether it is on the playground or virtually, peer cruelty doesn’t seem to have any limits or boundaries.

The irony of it is I read so much about youth bullying, and I don’t want to diminish that it is an important issue — but the fact is adults are not only victims of harassment, they can be the perpetrators too.   Yes, the very people that should be our children’s role models (sports figures, celebrities, politicians, teachers, elders, etc… people we should respect) can be the direct people that are acting like children online or otherwise.

We have heard the stories of fat shaming, face shaming, parent shaming (moms judging moms), baby shaming, cyber-shaming and this year I read more about the ugliness of slut shaming (from adults).

Most have heard and read about revenge porn.  Slut shaming (sexual bullying) is different, yet some may confuse it with porn since the word slut is a slur for girls or women that are believed to have been engaged in many sexual partners.

The UnSlut Project, founded by Emily Lindin, is about giving young girls a voice — a voice that Emily herself offers to girls across the world that are sexually bullied.  Once a victim of slut shaming, she knows she was fortunate that she decided on her darkest days – not to take her life.


Others, such as Amanda Todd and Audrie Potts, were not as fortunate.

Being bullied in any form is cruel.  Sexual bullying is only yet another form of cruelty that youth have no control over.  Like the telephone game, before you know it, the girl has slept with the entire football team or school for that matter — and has no way to defend herself.

The UnSlut Project aired their documentary “UnSlut: A Documentary Film.”  In 2013, Halifax teenager Rehtaeh Parsons took her own life after being raped and ostracized by her classmates. Through the stories of four women who overcame various sexual shaming, this film explores how we can work toward a world where the word “slut” doesn’t even make sense as an insult.

Most everyone agrees bullying and cyberbullying needs to stop.  Education and awareness it the key to prevention.  The more you know the more you are able to be part of the solution.

Emily Lindin continues to be a voice in curbing online hate and slut shaming. As an expert and contributor in my new book, Shame Nation: The Global Epidemic of Online Hate (Sourcebooks) she reminds young girls when she speaks with them about sharing nudes….

Emily points out that online porn is readily available, so these boys already have all the masturbatory material they could ever desire—what they are really after is power to lord over you, control you, even blackmail you. She asks young women pointedly, “Do you really want to give them that power?”

Emily’s question can equally relate to adults. Ultimately, the decision to share nude photos of yourself is yours, and yours alone, to make. And if it happens that someone out there chooses to exploit your nude photos—it’s not your fault. But, please, before sharing a nude, know the risks and take time to consider the potential consequences.

Order Shame Nation today from AmazonBarnes & NobleBooks-A-Million or Indie Books.

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Today almost everyone, not only teenagers, are connected to social media.

A Pew Research Center study found that 92 percent of U.S. teenagers use social networks at least once a day, with 24 percent reporting that they are online “almost constantly.

Adults love their social media too. According to PEW Research Center study, 74 percent of adults online use social media with Facebook leading by 71 percent.

What is all this social media doing to our health?

Depending on your personality everyone handles their cyber-stress differently. Don’t kid yourself, there is cyber-stress especially when teens start depending on LIKEs for their self-image (esteem) and adults start comparing their lives to their friends lives (or what they are posting online).

Let’s keep in mind this is social media.  There will always be those humble-braggers.  Yes, people that believe they need to one-up others digitally or lead others to believe that their life is more than it actually is.  It’s frustrating since those photo’s can be deceiving, and it makes you reflect on your own life — wondering where you missed the boat.  Chances are you didn’t, they are only a perception through what they want you to believe.

It can be more of a struggle for teens.  They aren’t mature enough to understand that it’s only social media and it’s not the end of the world.

The number of LIKEs today won’t determine their future.  

Limiting social media use can cause FOMO (fear of missing out), however it is important to find the healthy balance and talking with them about their self-worth outside of the cyber-world.

One study, Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking, found that teens using social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter and Instagram for more than two hours per day are more likely to report suicidal thoughts, psychological distress and rate their mental health as poor.

This study also found that teenagers using social media for excessive periods were more likely to say their mental health needs were going unmet and called for public health organizations to do more to engage with young people via such platforms.

The study acknowledged that social media can be a way to combat loneliness and depression, as well as increase self-esteem and social support, like I have witnessed with social media therapy. Chances are this is with more mature teens or people with a better understanding of how we need to use social media.

There was a second study, How Facebook Usage is Linked to Depressive Symptoms, found that people feel depressed after excessive use of Facebook because they tend to make negative social comparisons with friends who crop up in their timelines.  Again, you need to remember, things are not always what they seem.

There is nothing wrong with social media, it is all about finding the healthy balance and learning that there is fact and fiction.  Just because it’s online doesn’t mean it’s true.

Offline parenting is what helps your child/teenager with their online health and wellness. It’s not about one chat, it’s your daily discussions.  Check-in with them about how they are feeling about different posts, or if they are struggling with cyber-stress or anxiety.  Keep a pulse on their cyber-health offline.

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keyboard_and_mouse-625x1000Whenever I see these headlines about youth taking their lives and the word bullying or cyberbullying attached to it, I want to cringe.

The fact is, it’s sad we need headlines to remind us to continue to be kind to others, to continue to discuss with our children as well as our friends and colleagues about the importance of being an upstander when you see someone being shamed online and most importantly — it’s a reminder that this digital cruelty is not going away anytime soon.

The fact is – there is a live person on the other-side of the screen. Whether it is a smartphone, a laptop, a tablet or a PC – you have the potential to destroy someone’s life with your keypad.  Yes, keystrokes  (a click of a mouse) have become a deadly weapon at all ages – and in many cases – it’s completely legal.

In a PEW Study, researchers said that online harassment will only get worse in the next decade. Unlike finding a cure for cancer or polio, cyberbullying and digital abuse is a human behavior and it’s almost impossible to say we can control every person with a gadget.

We now live in a society where the majority of people live their lives online.  This includes grownups too.  I am firm believer that we can’t exclude parents from the way they are behaving online as well as their lack of understanding their role in educating their kids and teens on empathy, cyberbullying awareness and online safety and security.

Cyberbullying is a concern for everyone and if you believe it can’t happen to  you, you are sorely mistaken.  No one is immune to cyber-bullets – and the worse part about online shaming is it can happen when you least expect it and from a person that you thought was a friend.

We can focus on cyberbullying rising or we can empower ourselves to be upstanders for not only our family, but for others we see that are struggling online.

Parents need to make time, maybe weekly to learn something new as it pertains to online safety, security and digital leadership (this includes cyberbullying prevention and awareness).  This doesn’t replace your regular chats with your kids on cyber-life.  It can enhance it.  Some great sites to get resources from:

We turn to kids, tweens and teens who spend the majority of their time connected.  Sure I could repeat all those PEW stats, but you already know – our kids have their smartphones sewn into the palm of their hand!  This is the first thing parents need to address.

Boundaries — and this goes for parents too.  Un-stitch that phone from the palm of their hand, especially during meals and at bedtime. I shouldn’t have to mention – while driving!  The catch… that means “parents” too!

Parents have to lead by example.  It’s that simple.  (Well, not really), but it should be.

CyberMentor2So what can kids do?  Lead by example too! 

Reminding your child that someone is watching their posts, keystrokes and their comments – they are potentially someone’s mentor whether they realize it or not. It could be their younger sibling, it could be their cousin or a neighbor that looks up to them.

In a post for Gaggle, I wrote about being a Cyber-Mentor.  This is a role for all ages, and one that can benefit each party.  It can help reduce cyberbullying and help give your child a support online when they feel hopeless – they have a peer that understands them.

Yes, cyberbullying might be rising, but let’s start talking about how upstanders and kindness online is growing too.  Talking is great, but let’s start doing something.

It’s more than wearing t-shirts, wristbands or even singing songs – it’s about literally reaching out online when you see that cyber-bullet strike.  It’s about sending a message of support to that person when you see that the are being humiliated or embarrassed.  It’s about publicly saying to others – “that is wrong.”  It’s about standing up against online shaming – not only talking to others about it, but doing something about it.

Parents that assume their kids would never do that – or that their kids could never be a victim of cyberbullies, please don’t be that naive.  No one is immune.  No one.

Doing more than talking about it:

In conclusion:  Cyberbullying and online hate is on the rise.  We will combat it through empathy and kindness.   Parents and their children need to start engaging in more conversations and role playing about this important topic as well as other digital trends.  Turning the talk into action!

Eventually we will see headlines saying:  Upstanders on the Rise!

For more information on preventing, surviving and overcoming online hate, order Shame Nation: The Global Epidemic of Online Hate (Sourcebooks) from your favorite bookstore today.

posted by on Apps, AT&T, Back to School, Cell Phone, Cell phone safety, Distracted driving, Texting and driving

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Distracted driving is a major problem and our devices are one of the biggest culprits. According to a poll conducted by Braun Research, 95 percent of drivers polled in the survey said that they disapprove of distracted driving, however, 71 percent engage in some sort of smartphone activity while driving. It’s not easy for teens to put the phone down when they get behind the wheel; even parents struggle with distracted driving. That’s why companies such as AT&T are taking action against distracted driving. Here’s how:

360 Experience

At first you might not think that a quick glance to check your text or email is not really all that distracting. But new technology from AT&T shows just how dangerous it is. Called a 360 Experience, this virtual reality simulation shows the very real consequences of looking at a phone while you’re behind the wheel. Users can click, drag and move around to experience the simulation online or watch in Google Cardboard. The 360 Experience is a valuable tool that can show the real dangers of distracted driving and should be viewed by both parents and teens.

Take the Pledge

Parents and teens alike can join millions of other safe drivers and take the It Can Wait pledge. Those who take the pledge agree that distracted driving is never OK and that you’re never alone on the roads, even if you’re alone in your car. The pledge is simple and is something every parent should go over with their teen. It has three statements, the first being “I pledge to care for those around me and put my phone down while I am driving.” Second, “I pledge to share the message: distracted driving is never OK.” And lastly, “I pledge to be aware that I’m never alone on the road.” Teens and parents can share their pledge on Facebook and Twitter like millions of others with photos and the #ItCanWait hashtag.

Download the App

The Drive-mode app was created to minimize distractions while driving. When the free app is enabled it automatically silences incoming alerts, like texts and phone calls, so as to help drivers stay focused when they’re on the road. The app automatically turns on its functions when a car is moving at 15 mph so there’s no fuss about tapping it on or making sure that it’s set to do its job, which could create a distraction itself. Parents will also appreciate the parental alerts, including notifications when teen drivers turn off the app or if auto-mode is disabled.

Education

Safe driving starts with education. In addition to being a good example, parents, you can teach your teen driver how to be safe when behind the wheel. Did you know that in some states texting and driving is illegal? States like Texas and Missouri even have bans on texting exclusively for teens. Citations for texting and driving can even lead to higher insurance rates. And, consider that texting and driving makes you 23 percent more likely to be involved in a wreck. In fact, according to data from the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration reported by Driving-Tests.org, 1.3 million accidents were caused by texting and driving in 2011. Next time you get behind the wheel, be a good example and put your phone away and out of sight so that you can drive distraction free.

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Schools are opening across the country and although we know bullies didn’t take the summer off, the cafeteria bullies have had a summer break.

Lunchroom bullying like schoolyard bullying is often a place where mean kids will gather.

We haven’t heard a lot about food allergy bullying, but especially as school doors are opening, we need to have more discussions about it.  I posted an article on Huffington Post Parents about the dangers of cafeteria bullying.

Food allergies is a serious medical condition affecting up to 15 million people in the United States, including 1 in 13 children. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or brushing up on the facts, learning all you can about the disease is the key to staying safe and living well with food allergies.

Food allergy bullying is a growing problem in schools across the country. About a third of kids with food allergies report that they have been bullied specifically because of their allergies. – FARE

Watch their PSA:

Takeaway tips:

• Teens and young adults with food allergies have the highest risk of fatal anaphylaxis. Though many younger children don’t understand the danger of using another’s allergies to bully, teens are more likely to take risks when it comes to food allergies.

• Millions of Americans have food allergies; tell your teen they aren’t alone. Encourage them not to be embarrassed to tell friends about their allergies.

• Watch for signs that your child is dealing with bullying: an increase of allergic reactions or excuses to stay out of school.

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What a fantastic headline! 

It can get exhausting hearing about the negativity of online harassment and how incivility is rising digitally.

Thanks to #ICANHELP, they put out a call for nominees of students that are making a positive impact online. They recently announced who they will be recognizing at their first annual #Digital4Good event which will be at Twitter headquarters.

Reprinted with permission:

(San Francisco, CA –August 1, 2017) – After receiving numerous submissions from across the country, #ICANHELP is thrilled to announce the students that will be recognized at the upcoming #Digital4Good. Happening on Monday, September 18th from 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM PST at Twitter HQ in San Francisco, this is the inaugural event celebrating empowered digital citizens.

Each of these students were nominated by a member of their community and then evaluated by our panel of students, educators, and industry representatives. While we often hear stories of tech misuse, our award winners are students using digital for good.

The following students will be recognized for their work on September 18 in San Francisco, CA at Twitter HQ, with more specific information about their individual accomplishments to be shared in the coming weeks. Congratulations to Cody Craft, Excelsior Middle School, Brentwood, CA; Erika deGuia, Heritage High School, Brentwood, CA; Samantha Lucero, Chino Hills High School, Chino Hills, CA; Astrid Maunsbach, Carlssonskolan, Stockholm, Sweden; Nina Nguyen, Orange High School, Orange, CA; Bailey Wilcox, Grossmont High School, El Cajon, CA; Kara Hopgood, Mount Boucherie Secondary School, Kelowna, BC, Canada; Maeve Repking, St. Petronile, Glen Ellyn, IL; Samantha Bisbee, Patriot High School, Jarupa Valley, CA; Mia Moran, Bristow Middle School, Brentwood, CA; Mitch Fisher, Northwest High School, Grand Island, NE; Sophie Bernstein, Clayton High School, St. Louis, MO; Tony Salazar, Exeter Union High School, Exeter, CA; Maxwell Surprenanat, St. Sebastian’s School, Needham, MA.

#Digital4Good is being spearheaded by #ICANHELP, a non-profit organization committed to empowering students to play an active role in improving the online environment. The event on September 18th is #ICANHELP’s first national event, and is meant to raise awareness of the power of student voice for social good in social media. Students as empowered stakeholders. Co-founder Kim Karr explains that, “#ICANHELP has worked with over two hundred and fifty thousand students to be the digital change they want to see.” Co-founder Matt Soeth added, “The focus is always too much on the negative, and we have some amazing youth out there making a difference. We want students to inspire students to be digital leaders.”

By uniting a broad range of students, educators, and industry people, the #Digital4Good event on September 18 represents a student-centered, student-led approach to solving some of the complicated issues and social problems in social tech use – students as part of the solution not the problem! It aims to raise awareness, offer real-world best practices, and celebrate the many examples of students using digital for good.

Twitter will host the first annual #Digital4Good event at their San Francisco headquarters and it will be live streamed through #ICANHELP’s Twitter account or through our website to a global audience. Anyone from across the country and globe will be able to watch the event live and free through @icanhelp and on the organization’s website.

More information can be found at icanhelpdeletenegativity.org.

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As a parent, you are probably concerned about your tween and teen’s use of social media. While you understand the appeal of sites like Instagram and Snapchat, you want to be sure your children are not sharing too much personal info or posting too many photos.

What makes this concern a tad ironic, is that you might not be worried about how you are representing your kids on social media. But maybe you should be.

What is Sharenting?

Almost every cute kiddo has an online presence by the time she reaches her second birthday. From newborn shots posted by proud parents on Twitter to hilarious videos of a toddler trying to eat chocolate pudding while decked out in a Superman cape that are shared on Facebook, parents are quite willing to introduce their kids to the world via social media. This tendency to share what our kids are saying and doing online is calling “sharenting,” and it definitely comes with a number of risks. For example, check out the following examples:

Identity Theft

Children are at a high risk of identity theft, and sharenting can make them a bigger target. Those beautiful newborn shots posted on Facebook probably included the full name and birth date of your newest bundle of joy; this is enough info for a nefarious nogoodnik to open up an account in your baby’s name and start wreaking havoc. To help counteract this risk, consider purchasing a service that will monitor for and mitigate against identity theft. Pick a reputable and reliable company that offers protection for family members, including those under the age of 18.

Increased Safety Risks

The last thing you want is to put your child’s safety at risk. But if you post first day of school photos along with the full name of your kiddos’ school and their teacher’s name, you may have unwittingly done just that. As the Institute for Healthcare Policy and Innovation at the University of Michigan notes, social media sites like Facebook often add in your location to your posts, so even if you leave off your tween’s school name, the site might do it for you. Also, depending on how you have selected your privacy settings, your photos of your kids and the personal info might be able to be viewed by not only your friends and family but also all of their contacts and total strangers who pull up your page.

A Lack of Trust Between Parent and Child

Remember when you were younger and you blushed with embarrassment every time your mom shared something private about you with a friend, relative or neighbor? You probably didn’t want Aunt Betty to know your latest GPA or the lady down the block to hear about your newest BFF and what movie you just saw. Now, if you are sharing personal stuff about your tweens and teens on social media, even if you have the best intentions, you may be creating a sense of mistrust and disrespect between you and your kiddos. To make matters worse, instead of sharing a cute story with one relative or friend, you may be telling the online world about what your kids are up to, without their permission.

In order to keep your relationships with your kids as open, honest and healthy as possible, ask them what they think about your posts about them on social media. You might find that your teenage son doesn’t care if you post photos of his awesome soccer goal, but your tween daughter was mortified about your seemingly innocuous post about back to school shopping.

Your relationships with your tweens and teens are far more important than any number of “likes” and positive comments from your social media peeps. As a bonus, this approach will also make you a positive role model for your kids; it will help teach them the importance of asking permission to post photos and comments about others, and possibly prevent any privacy or other issues involving posts of their friends.

A Few Final Words of Advice

Even if your daughter said it’s cool to post stuff about her success as a debater or softball player, let caution be your guide. Ask yourself if you are fine with the whole world knowing these tidbits about your tween — because this is pretty much what will happen when you post on social media. Resist the urge to ask for advice about your children and any struggles they may be going through, and use either their first initial or a nickname to identify them.


This is a guest post. We do not represent any services mentioned in this post nor are we compensated in any way. This is strictly for educational purposes.

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Unicef1As schools across the country get ready to open their doors, parents and educators prepare to address not only bullying but also today’s digital problem, cyberbullying.

Last year UNICEF released their report Perils and Possibilities: Growing up online, based on an international opinion poll of more than 10,000 18-year-olds from 25 countries, revealed young people’s perspectives on the risks they face growing up in an increasingly connected world.

One of the biggest issues facing youth today is online bullying and harassment. One survey found it to be more concerning than drug abuse.

Most teens know that when they encounter cyberbullies, they should stop, block and tell, (and I always advise them to screen-shot all the evidence before you block them), however the telling is most important.

When I went through my darkest times of being a victim of online shaming and abuse, you feel completely alone, fearful and humiliated. As an adult — I felt this way, so when I hear about youth being verbally tortured online, I know this has to be extremely painful. Without having someone to confide in, it can emotionally kill you.

  • In Central European countries, 63% of interviewees strongly agree they would tell a friend if they felt threatened online, compared to 46% who would tell their parent. Only 9% would tell a teacher.

More than half, (53%) of  the 10,000 that were polled around the world strongly agreed that online dangers exist.

With more than half believing there are online risks and dangers, 90% believe they know how to avoid these problems.

“Despite recognition that dangers
exist online, nearly nine out of 10
adolescents think they have learned
how to protect themselves on
social media and know how to avoid
dangerous situations while using the
Internet.”

Whenever you are being harassed or bullied online, especially if virtual violence or otherwise is involved, being able to tell someone is imperative. With younger people we encourage them to tell their parents, however we know at times this can be difficult. They fear their will lose their online privileges or not be taken seriously. Sometimes they fear they will be consider a tattle-tale.

In this report the majority of adolescents polled said the would turn to a friend, and that’s okay. As long as you tell someone.

  • 54% said they would tell a friend.
  • 48% said they would tell a parent.
  • 19% said they would tell a teacher.

Today sexting is considered the new flirting. So if your teen shares flirty pictures with their boyfriend or girlfriend keep in mind, those images will typically have a life span longer than the relationship. Most important is discussing the consequences of sexting: Sending or receiving a sexually suggestive text or image under the age of 18 is considered child pornography and can result in criminal charges.

Don’t assume your sexy images will be kept private even if your friend makes a promise they will be — once there’s a break-up, all bets are off.

It’s why we see the rise in revenge porn and sextortion.

  • 67% of girls agreed they would be worried if someone made sexual comments to them online.
  • 47% of boys said they had the same concern (a significant difference).

We often read so much about women being targets online when it comes to digital shaming, harassment, revenge porn and more, which is understandable with these statistics. Men can be victims too – but we do hear an overwhelming amount of stories that revolve around the female gender.

Parenting tips:

  • Communication is key.
  • Offline chats are imperative to online safety.
  • Go online with your child, be as interested in their cyber-life as you are in their school life.
  • Remember, short chats are better than no chats at all.
  • It’s not the apps – it’s having the skills and wisdom to know when to click-out when they are uncomfortable.
  • Continue to remind your kids you are there for them – but it’s also okay for them to talk to any trusted adult. If someone is being harassed online, they have to tell someone. Don’t be hurt – but grateful they are sharing it with someone.

“When young people, governments, families, the ICT sector and communities work together, we are more likely to find the best ways to respond to online sexual abuse and exploitation, and send a strong message that confronting and ending violence against children online – indeed anywhere – is all of our business,” said Williams.

About UNICEF

UNICEF promotes the rights and wellbeing of every child, in everything we do. Together with our partners, we work in 190 countries and territories to translate that commitment into practical action, focusing special effort on reaching the most vulnerable and excluded children, to the benefit of all children, everywhere.

The full study is here: http://www.unicef.org/endviolence/endviolenceonline/files/UNICEF_Growing-up-online.pdf