A Social Life: Coming To Terms With Online Embellishment
Maybe I’m being polite when I said, coming to terms with online embellishment, when I actual meant — social media fakes. People who post to social media about their wonderful lives when behind the screens, it is anything but roses and cherries.
It’s always nice to see people posting about their new puppy or kitty they saved from the pound or bought. Maybe you just got engaged or the birth of a child or you are starting a new job you really wanted. You just started dating a great person and you can’t help but share (overshare) ever moment of joy — but what happens when that flame burns out?
Okay, so you don’t want to not post your exciting moments, but can we be a bit more selective and maybe keep some of our private times to ourselves? We all know that scrolling through Facebook posts or other platforms with comments can be a bit over-the-top. If you don’t want to brag or be considered a humble bragger, than why post-it at all?
People say, it you have it flaunt it. Okay, that’s great — except do you know your audience? It’s not bragging when you have it – but what happens when you have personal friends or family on there that know it’s not exactly truthful — or know that maybe you are embellishing. I guess it’s all part of being online – and learning decipher cyber-fact from fiction.
I’m sure I’m not the only one that has seen this over and over on news-feeds, however what is troubling is the studies about social media depression.
How these posts do have the potential to mentally harm people.
There comes a time in everyone’s life when they have reflection. Years ago, prior social media, we only had our thoughts and memory to rely on. Today we have Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, YouTube and other various forms of social living that we use to take us down memory lane.
With this we are also noticing an increase in depression with the vast amount of online social life. University of Pittsburgh Center for Research on Media, Technology, and Health, have found out that those who have been using between 7 to 11 social media platforms are three times more likely to suffer from depression or anxiety.
I can fully understand this. There was a short film, A Social Life (see below) that takes you through a young woman’s day who’s living the life she dreamed of…..online.
A Social Life is a short film about a career driven woman named Meredith who’s living the life she’s always dreamed of… online. Meredith strives to live a balanced life: staying fit, working hard and connecting with her friends; she is creating her “image” within her broader social media friend base. But she awakes one day and realizes that her reflection is merely the collection of photos that she has shared with others. Is this her life? Or just a carefully curated brand?
Sadly, I would venture to say many people will be able to relate to this short film. Waiting and counting their LIKEs on their images, creating the perfect pictures, posing and writing the that snappy content to attract more followers and hoping people believe you are living your life — your dream – when in reality, you are only posing/pretending and faking what you want to be real.
Have you considered how we survived without all these social platforms? We did. Believe it or not, there’s still people that refuse to give into the social-life craze.
As we roll into another New Year, I know it’s impossible to put down your gadgets, as I know I won’t, but what about trimming down your usage?
Let’s try commit to selective sharing and living more for you and your family in real-time rather than for social.
It’s a thought — since you only get one life to live, being social is great, but don’t forget the people in real life too. They were there for you before social media.